Overcoming Being Unconsciously Empathic

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Overcoming Being Unconsciously Empathic in Favour of Being
Intentionally
Multi-Dimensionally Connected

At birth we have a tendency to be energetically like little amoebas.
We have unstructured borders. We move our energy fields in and
around the energy fields of other people in order to check out how
they are feeling. We do this instinctively in order to know how to
get what we want, in order to be safe, or in order to understand
that which is around us. As we grow older some people learn other
methods of defence, understanding verbally, or methods of getting
information. Some people do not learn other methods and continue to
be empathic, being sponge-like in soaking up energy, information and
emotions from other people. These people find it very difficult to
understand where they stop and another person begins. They have a
tendency to allow their boundaries to be invaded by other people.
The do not understand the concept of personal boundaries. When a
person is empathic it is difficult for them to have a good self
image that is not controlled by the thoughts of other people about
them. They do not have a clear impression of self hood and "others".
This gift of being able to read other people empathically becomes
more of a curse than a gift. It is a time to give up being empathic
and to rather get information for and about other people by
communication directly with their Oversoul. In being empathic we are
picking up information from others and carrying it for them, or
acting it out for them, unconsciously. It is difficult to
differentiate between what are our feelings and emotions and the
emotions of others. Being empathic causes many people to be
overweight and to be excessively emotional. We can cease to practice
being unconsciously empathic by installing intentional balloons of
cushion energy around ourselves, and by having an intention to
communicate telepathically (rather than empathically) with the
Oversouls of those we encounter.

Recommendation: Always remember, what I write are my opinions and
experiences. Trust only your own intuition. Trust only what
resonates with your own truth- bj
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byKathyMoore

I see many clients in my practice as a hypnotherapist and consultant
that are overwhelmed by or stuck in some intensely negative,
recurring emotion-- especially guilt. Some exhibit such intense and
unexplained sorrow they say things like, "I've been crying all week
for no reason!" I would characterize most, if not all, of these
clients as: highly spiritually evolved, accepting responsibility for
their own lives, serious about working through their issues and open-
minded. So why can't they seem to get past these problems? When I
began to intently study this phenomena, I started seeing
similarities and making connections. Most of these clients would
spend as much time (in the pre-talk portion of their sessions)
relating other people's problems and how they were affected by them
as they did "their own stuff." They frequently made comments
regarding seemingly unexplained anger, grief or guilt in themselves,
that they simultaneously recognized, yet could easily explain in
friends and relatives. What I began to realize was that these
clients were not only extremely empathic, but had no idea what to do
about it. In fact, I now believe at least 60percent of my current
clients are highly empathic and, of these, a large portion of the
motional problems they suffer from are not their own.
As synchronicity would have it, shortly after I made this onnection,
my copy
of Issue #29 of Intuition Magazine arrived. There, on page 8, begins
an
article by Maggie Oman Shannon, titled The Sensitivity Trait. Oman's
article
chronicles the work of research psychologist and psychotherapist
Elaine Aron.
Aron, highly empathic herself, claims, "high sensitivity can be an
asset if you
arrange your life to accommodate this gift." Her book, The Highly
Sensitive
Person : How to Thrive when the World Overwhelms You, details her
research findings, which include: The brains of highly sensitive
people have more activity and blood flow in the right hemisphere,
indicating an internal rather than an external focus. What is
moderately arousing to most people is overwhelming to HSPs. HSPs
often have decreased serotonin levels resulting from the repeated
stress of over arousal. Likewise, they have more reactive immune
systems (allergies) and more sensitive nervous systems.
The sensitivity trait is just as likely among men as among women;
both
represent about 20 percent of the population. Some recommendations
of Aron's for HSPs: Spend at least eight to ten hours per day in
bed, whether sleeping or not, plus an extra two hours spent in
meditation or other forms of solitude and one hour of outdoor
exercise. Make sure to have plenty of "down time", including: one
full day per week completely off, one month of vacation per year
(split up, preferably), time with animals and plants in nature as
often as possible. Keep the following items on hand: earplugs (for
loud noise), silk wrap or blanket of natural materials (to cuddle up
in with favorite herbal tea),
flowers, candles, incense (to please all the senses), protein snacks
(as sensory over arousal depletes blood sugar). I've uncovered my
own recommendations from working with HSPs. First, use some
form of releasing therapy, such as Yoga therapy; hypnotherapy;
energy work of any kind, such as Reiki; Dance; MAP or ACCESS,
to "let go" of stuck emotions, whether yours or someone else's. Then
practice either a shielding or a channeling /transmuting program. In
a shielding program, HSPs would typically visualize surrounding
themselves with white light and placing a reflective shield outside
the light, so negative energies from others get sent back. This, I
believe is the most commonly used type of protection. In a similar
concept, Native Americans brought us "smudging" using Sage sticks. A
healer friend of mine has a prayer she uses in the shower, "Please
let all negative emotions that are not mine be washed away in this
shower." However, I agree with Judith Orloff, MD, who spoke recently
during a Mind Science Foundation lecture. She said she made a
conscious decision, even though highly empathic herself, not to
shield herself, but to open 100 percent to her vulnerability. If
this idea fits better with your belief system, you can still
strengthen yourself by seeing yourself as a channel for a higher
energy source, instead of someone who needs protection. Something
that worked very well for me during a big shift in my own
consciousness was to sing "The Prayer of St. Francis" over and over
again as a mantra. (This prayer, set to music, begins "Make me a
channel of Your peace. Where there is hatred, let me bring Your
love...") And, actually visualize yourself as some form of pipe or
other conduit, allowing Universal energy to flow through you to heal
people and situations around you. I have a friend who allows the
negative energy of others to flow through him and sends it into
Mother Earth to be transmuted into positive again. Just sitting in
the same room with him is extremely refreshing and empowering. You
don't have to be born with this talent; you can develop it, and, in
the process, heal your own life. Through the use of these and other
techniques, being born highly sensitive can truly become a blessing.
If you'd like more information on this subject, I highly recommend
either of Judith Orloff's books or the one highlighted in this
article, by Elaine
Aron. Or, as always, feel free to contact me. About this
contributor: Kathy Moore, MBA, CH, is in full-time practice as a
hypnotist and motivational consultant. She is also co-producer of a
holistic health show in the San Antonio area
(www.welltv.freeservers.com) called Wellness Connection. For more
information, visit her website at www.mooreinspire.com